रविवार, 20 जनवरी 2019

Let us say ‘sorry!’


Let us say ‘sorry!’



We often heart others by words and actions in our day to day dealings. This complicates our relationship and makes life more difficult. We can easily solve many problems by accepting our mistakes and saying, Sorry! Problem arises when we fail to have a balanced view towards happenings in life arising mainly due to our inability to listen the views of others. Everybody is just trying to express his sense of belongingness to this universe. If we accept that and develop a sense of togetherness, this world can certainly be a far better place to live in.
Whether we are in the office or on road, the situation often takes ugly turn mainly due to lack of tolerance and the other side reacts violently which was never expected. For example, if a person parks his vehicle wrongly near his flat, his neighbour indulges in fierce fighting which may sometimes end in killing of one of the two persons fighting. We can avoid confrontation in most of such cases just by listening peacefully to the grievances of the other side and by keeping self-control. If we have tolerance and keep cool and try to listen the views of the other side, many untoward incidents can be avoided. We may live happily by developing understanding with our neighbours. Confrontation does not lead anywhere. We must learn the art of saying sorry, if we really want to win others.
There are situations when both sides seem to be taking correct positions. In fact, both of them may be right and still their views may be diametrically opposite to each other and entirely conflicting. It is absolutely essential that a middle path is found out in such situations. The question is how to adjust with the situation so that they could live together in harmony without causing any disturbance to others. It is always wise to develop feeling of oneness which can be better expressed by acceptance of mistakes on our part which might have been committed willingly or unwillingly. If that resolves the situation and helps in restoration of peace, one should not hesitate in doing so.
God gave us ability to speak so that we can make others understand our feelings. He also gave us capacity to hear so that we can listen to the views of others. Then he also gave us eyes to be able to see the vast universe in which we are living. This world can certainly be a better place to live in if we make a proper use of these three abilities given to us by God. 
We often apply our minds while confronting day to day problems. That is required also. But there are situations when we need to apply our heart more than the mind and that alone can help sort out differences with others. Many times, we see people fighting for small issues. This happens because their ego gets involved. No one wants to backtrack from his stated position. The result is that even a small issue gets complicated. It is why we often involve third person who may see things independently and try to resolve it by following the middle path. It is quite possible that both the sides could be right in their view but they are unable to find a mutually acceptable solution. That can happen only if we accept others view and try to find out middle path and adjust with the situation.
Happiness in life cannot be achieved only through bookish knowledge. It needs a practical approach to things. We do not lose much rather gain much more if we consider the problems of others with human angle and keep our individual ego aside while doing so. This makes a lot of difference and can bring out unexpected results. We should consider problems of life from others viewpoint. Management of conflict by adopting a reasonable and mutually acceptable solution is key to peaceful living. It is quite possible that we may be looser for the time being but nothing is costly if that gives us peace in life. We cannot enjoy unless we live in peace and harmony with the nears and dears. Can we imagine a situation where we shall be dancing alone? It cannot bring real happiness at all. We always desire to share our moments of joys with others. We can do this only if we maintain cordial relation with them.

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