These days people are
overstressed. They just need a small jerk and you are finished. The reason is
that most of the people are already over exhausted. They have crossed their
limit of tolerance. It is not that the particular incident was responsible for
the horrible incident. Thus, we are passing through a very difficult phase. You
may not be at fault or the fault may be quite small compared to the harm done
by others under overreaction. The question is: How to face the situation? Unless
we adopt a middle path and try to reconcile with the situation, things are
bound to get complicated.
Every day we see such conflicts.
People attach too much importance to their own views and often try to impose it
upon others because of the wrong notion that they are the wisest and the views
expressed by them should be accepted by all. Many times, we find people
quarrelling over small things. Sometimes it also results in murders. Like me
others too have their own ego problem.
Overinfluenced by our own
ego, we often become unreasonable and undertake one-sided view of things which
results in further complicates the situation. We stick to our own views and do
not listen to others. In that situation
even enlightened and educated persons fail to resolve the small issues.
Some people are too much
ego-centric. They can go to any extent to settle their ego requirements. Such
persons are not fit to adjust in the society and often create unwanted
problems. People with high dose of ego often tend to be dictatorial and hardly
try to accommodate. They therefore, always find fault with others and most of
the time keep criticizing the people who come in contact. Ego- centric
persons are so much engrossed with their own views that they do not mind even
harming themselves if that satisfies their ego. So, we must be careful in
handling such persons.
Ego is a common problem
for everybody. Not even Gods are said to be an exception. In Mahabharat, there
is a famous story that once Bhim was going through a forest. A monkey was lying
in his way. He requested the monkey to move out but it did not buzz. He
requested again and again and then became angry. The monkey said sarcastically-
“You are so brave, having won the battle of Mahabharata. Why do not you remove
me and go ahead? “That made Bhim quite angry. He shouted back at the monkey and
started removing his tail forcefully but he could not move the tail even an
inch. Then Bhim realized that it could be none but Hanumanji and just fell on
his feet. Then Hanumanji came in his real form and told him that he had done
the whole thing just to make him understand the reality and get out of his
false ego that he had won the battle of Mahabharat. He further clarified that
he was present atop his flag throughout the battle of Mahabharat otherwise he
would have been thrown out of the battle field like anything.
Everybody has his own
ego. It is neither desirable nor possible to get rid of ego altogether. Ego
becomes problem when we do not consider ego of others and in that process heart
them. Hurting a person even unwillingly does not help us in any way because
once hurt, the man becomes beyond our reach. We lose chance to settle an issue
amicably. We must, therefore, be cautious while dealing with the situation
which we confront in day to day life. If we agree to appreciate the fact that
others too are human being and have weaknesses as we have, things become much
easier to resolve.
Many people keep fighting
for nothing or for something very small. A friend of mine who is an Advocate
told me that one of his client was having dispute with his own brother over
some ancestral property the net value of which was not more than seven lacs.
Both the brothers were having claim over the same property and no one was
willing to budge an inch. The advocate told me that one of the two brothers who
was his client had already given him about eight lacs as fee and he might be
required to pay more as the matter was still pending in the court. Such is the
predicament of the situation that we keep fighting without even bothering about
the benefit that could eventually come out of that.
We remain involved with
our oneself throughout. If we develop sense of ownness with others and are
concerned with the well-being of our nears and dears, we can live in greater
harmony with the things around and attain peace of mind which has been elusive
so far because it cannot be gained through worldly achievements. Ego is the
greatest obstacle in the way. We must get out of it and enjoy the bliss of
life.