The great
thing about a child is that he finds happiness out of everything. He does not
need big things to enjoy. Because he is pure and unbiased so everything that
comes across him, becomes a source of joy!
Every child
comes to the world as an entirely new creation of God. Every day the child
learns something. Every child is talented in its own way. We should find out
the hidden talent of every individual child and try to give him the best
facility in keeping with his interest. That will help him to develop to the
fullest.
The best
thing that parents can give to their child is education and character. These
are permanent source of strength to future citizens. Parents should only try to
let the child grow his potentiality to the fullest. If this is allowed to
happen they can not only be a source of happiness to their parents but will
definitely prove an asset to the society at large. Many millionaires have
donated most of their assets for charity and left only a very small portion of
it for their children because they did not want them to be spoilt with so much
wealth in their hands at the outset (for which they did nothing to acquire).
The best thing is that they must learn the art of earning themselves. Once they
do this, they can themselves acquire wealth as per their ability and may reach
to any height.
Many parents
want to use their wards for the fulfilment of their unfulfilled dreams. They
want their children to achieve what they themselves could not. Even when the
child has no interest in Mathematics, some parents want them to be engineer as
they themselves could not because of whatever reasons. Such students do not
succeed and get frustrated due to wrong selection of subjects. Let us not
forget that everybody has its own potentially and interests. It is not fare to
force a child to adopt a career as per market requirements. That kills the
basic instinct of a child to grow in his\her own way.If we allow them to choose
career according to their choice they definitely would have a better chance to
succeed.
Nobody can
get everything he desires. What is required is our ability to be able to live
in complete harmony with the present time so that our entire energy is focussed
and utilised in positive direction. The basic purpose of entire education
system should be to make the child self-dependent. He should be able to live
his life independently. But there are many cases when parents keep on nagging
their children unnecessarily. This does not serve the purpose. Such children ultimately
fail to achieve and many times become source of trouble for their parents and
the society as a whole.
These days most
of the Parents do not have time for their children. They want to compensate for
that with lot of money which they spend upon buying toys and other things of their
choice. They do not delay even for a moment in fulfilling any such. That
becomes a habit of the child. When such child grows he does not know to wait or
adjust rather they want everything or anything that they desire. This attitude
makes it very difficult for them to adjust in the society at a later stage when
they are grown up persons and have to face odds and evens of life. This often
results in attitudinal problems and abnormality in their behaviour.
Children
learn most of things within the family. Our behaviour, way of talking with
other family members and even attitude affect the growth of our children. They
by all means try to copy those things. We practice one thing and try to teach
something different to our children. That does not bring about the desired
result. What children need most is a real example as set by their parents and
family. It is, therefore, absolutely essential that parents themselves set good
examples before them so that they develop as a good citizen later on.
Everybody
gives his other best for their children. In fact, we get immense satisfaction
in doing something good for them. Even the poorest want their children to be
well educated so that they get better opportunities in their lives and achieve
what we could not. But we make a mistake at this point. Everybody comes to this
world with his own destiny. We cannot frame up them to fit into our personal
ambitions. Moreover, everybody has different nature. Accordingly, his aptitude
and likings too vary. We should try to find out the personal likings of our
children and let them grow in that direction. We should and must not force our
own ambitions upon them.
These days
children live under lot of pressure. Securing the highest marks seems to be the
end game. The fact of the matter is that parents are not satisfied even when
his child gets above ninety percent because someone else has secured more than
him. Are we expecting our children to work like a computer? Apart from
intellectual growth, we must let our children inculcate moral values which play
a dominant role in personality building of a child and gives them strength to
fight the battle of life.
Many parents
are too much concerned about performance of their children in the school or
college examinations. No doubt such tests ae important but they cannot be given
so much weightage that the basic purpose of education i.e. to develop self-dependent
and confidant Youngman is affected adversely. As a guardian we can provide best
facilities so the student. Sometimes things are not in the hand of the student
and he may get less marks despite efforts. We keep scolding our children for
not performing well examinations. That does not help in anyway. Instead we should
do self-introspection and find out the real reason behind poor performance of
the child. That may lead to his prosperity. After all, scoring good marks in
examinations is not the end game and there are many people in this world who
have done very well in their lives despite being an average student. So, what
is important is to understand your child and his nature. If we do this, half
the work is done!