गुरुवार, 6 सितंबर 2018

Lessons for parents!





The great thing about a child is that he finds happiness out of everything. He does not need big things to enjoy. Because he is pure and unbiased so everything that comes across him, becomes a source of joy!

Every child comes to the world as an entirely new creation of God. Every day the child learns something. Every child is talented in its own way. We should find out the hidden talent of every individual child and try to give him the best facility in keeping with his interest. That will help him to develop to the fullest.

The best thing that parents can give to their child is education and character. These are permanent source of strength to future citizens. Parents should only try to let the child grow his potentiality to the fullest. If this is allowed to happen they can not only be a source of happiness to their parents but will definitely prove an asset to the society at large. Many millionaires have donated most of their assets for charity and left only a very small portion of it for their children because they did not want them to be spoilt with so much wealth in their hands at the outset (for which they did nothing to acquire). The best thing is that they must learn the art of earning themselves. Once they do this, they can themselves acquire wealth as per their ability and may reach to any height.

Many parents want to use their wards for the fulfilment of their unfulfilled dreams. They want their children to achieve what they themselves could not. Even when the child has no interest in Mathematics, some parents want them to be engineer as they themselves could not because of whatever reasons. Such students do not succeed and get frustrated due to wrong selection of subjects. Let us not forget that everybody has its own potentially and interests. It is not fare to force a child to adopt a career as per market requirements. That kills the basic instinct of a child to grow in his\her own way.If we allow them to choose career according to their choice they definitely would have a better chance to succeed.

Nobody can get everything he desires. What is required is our ability to be able to live in complete harmony with the present time so that our entire energy is focussed and utilised in positive direction. The basic purpose of entire education system should be to make the child self-dependent. He should be able to live his life independently. But there are many cases when parents keep on nagging their children unnecessarily. This does not serve the purpose. Such children ultimately fail to achieve and many times become source of trouble for their parents and the society as a whole.

These days most of the Parents do not have time for their children. They want to compensate for that with lot of money which they spend upon buying toys and other things of their choice. They do not delay even for a moment in fulfilling any such. That becomes a habit of the child. When such child grows he does not know to wait or adjust rather they want everything or anything that they desire. This attitude makes it very difficult for them to adjust in the society at a later stage when they are grown up persons and have to face odds and evens of life. This often results in attitudinal problems and abnormality in their behaviour.

Children learn most of things within the family. Our behaviour, way of talking with other family members and even attitude affect the growth of our children. They by all means try to copy those things. We practice one thing and try to teach something different to our children. That does not bring about the desired result. What children need most is a real example as set by their parents and family. It is, therefore, absolutely essential that parents themselves set good examples before them so that they develop as a good citizen later on.

Everybody gives his other best for their children. In fact, we get immense satisfaction in doing something good for them. Even the poorest want their children to be well educated so that they get better opportunities in their lives and achieve what we could not. But we make a mistake at this point. Everybody comes to this world with his own destiny. We cannot frame up them to fit into our personal ambitions. Moreover, everybody has different nature. Accordingly, his aptitude and likings too vary. We should try to find out the personal likings of our children and let them grow in that direction. We should and must not force our own ambitions upon them.

These days children live under lot of pressure. Securing the highest marks seems to be the end game. The fact of the matter is that parents are not satisfied even when his child gets above ninety percent because someone else has secured more than him. Are we expecting our children to work like a computer? Apart from intellectual growth, we must let our children inculcate moral values which play a dominant role in personality building of a child and gives them strength to fight the battle of life.

Many parents are too much concerned about performance of their children in the school or college examinations. No doubt such tests ae important but they cannot be given so much weightage that the basic purpose of education i.e. to develop self-dependent and confidant Youngman is affected adversely. As a guardian we can provide best facilities so the student. Sometimes things are not in the hand of the student and he may get less marks despite efforts. We keep scolding our children for not performing well examinations. That does not help in anyway. Instead we should do self-introspection and find out the real reason behind poor performance of the child. That may lead to his prosperity. After all, scoring good marks in examinations is not the end game and there are many people in this world who have done very well in their lives despite being an average student. So, what is important is to understand your child and his nature. If we do this, half the work is done!

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